Fool me once, shame on you… you know the rest, right? Well, a lot of us have had to experience this phrase a couple of times while growing up.
As a trait, loyalty doesn’t really get as much credit as it should.
Fine, it might not be as a flashy as good looks or great chemistry.
However, Loyalty is definitely essential in any relationship, whether with our friends or families.
So, What Exactly Is Loyalty?
Some people might say that someone loyal is trustworthy.
So technically, loyalty shows devotion or dedication to a people or a thing, or even an organisation.
It requires a lot of faith and patience in that thing or person to be loyal to them.
Now, loyalty is not limited to just relationships; it can also be shown to friends and family.
This requires that you be able to show trust in them so that they can also put their trust in you.
That’s the price you have to pay for loyalty. It’s not steep, is it?
How Do You Recognise Loyalty?
Finding someone loyal to you can sometimes be hard.
But there are easy ways you can recognise loyalty.
When someone accepts you for who you are regardless of what you do or what you look like, then that’s true loyalty.
A loyal person would also be there for you in times of difficulties.
What’s a friend if they are not there when you need them the most?
Now, How Do You Nurture Loyalty?
As mentioned earlier, loyalty is hard to come by. So, when you find that loyal person or people, you should do whatever it takes to nurture that loyalty. How?
Keep To Your Promises
Try as much as possible to do exactly what you say you would do.
Don’t make promises you can’t keep because the more promises you break; the more people lose trust in you.
Admit When You Are Wrong
Whenever you make a mistake, you should own up to it.
Admit that you are wrong and also apologise without making up excuses.
Even more, you can ask how you can make up for it.
If you want loyalty, then you have to be loyal, as well.
Are you loyal to your friends, family, and loved ones?
If that’s a no, then you have no right to seek loyalty from them.
How Do You Know When You’re Losing Loyalty?
Loyalty doesn’t stay for a lifetime; sometimes, it can fade easily.
Can you tell when you’re losing someone’s loyalty?
Well, to some extent, yes, you can. However, you have to observe carefully.
- Do they undermine you?
- Are they treating your relationship with them as a chore?
- Do they downplay your role in their lives?
If you notice any of these traits in someone you thought was loyal to you, then maybe you should think again.
To Wrap It Up
Loyalty might seem like just a seven-letter word, but you best believe that it has a deeper and greater meaning in our lives.
You should know that loyalty can also be abused when one party is not trustworthy.
They might just want to use you for their own gains.
So, you should be careful who you trust.
Till next month,
I remain truly yours,
Serving since 28th December 2008.